Bosun Bankole

You are emotionally imprisoned if you find it difficult to leave a relationship that deprived you of freedom, focus and peac

Keep in mind that just as it takes two to love, it also takes two to make a mess of a relationship.

Define what trust means to you and review your understanding of trust with your partner so you can both be on the same page as to what actions constitute to trust being broken.

I was at a youth camp meeting held by our Church on this day and I walked in late to the chapel after the praise worship had started. I was having a great time in God’s presence as the praise worship was great, but, I looked up as if paying attention for the first time to the praise worship leader.

A young man who wanted to sign up for the spouse connect service I coordinate expressed his concerns about women to me. In his exact words “being with a woman these days can be complicated, while you are still thinking of having fun and getting to know her, she‎ expects you to make a marriage proposal. It does not work that way he concluded”.

I am not oblivious to the fact that people go into relationships for many short-term reasons, but if you are in a relationship for the long term with marriage in view then it is important to start questioning if your relationship is preparing you for marriage.

Telling my friend her husband was cheating is the same as telling her the perfect marriage she thought she has had been a lie.

The fact that the young man has fallen in love with you does not mean he has become your burden bearer, whereby you have to transfer all your needs to him. It is saddening to hear ladies say they can’t be with a man who cannot meet their needs. Please watch it, before you loose all your sense of value in the name of becoming a money bag. By this I do not mean men should not show support to their women, especially if they have the means, I just feel women should learn to be independent and have a sense of pride.”

I went on a date with a couple of friends some time ago and while on the date I noticed everyone was looking at me in a funny way. I became conscious and decided to find out why, then I noticed I was the only one who had my phone with me and I had been interacting with my phone more than the people I was out on a date with. Such action is tagged phubbing. Phubbing means snubbing someone on a date by paying attention to your phone instead of listening.