By Tosyn Bucknor
My friend said to me once, ‘you are obsessed with being happy.’
I paraphrase, but that was the general idea.
I like being happy, and I want to be happy. There was a time misery was my safe place and I think we stay sad or stay in bad situations because they are familiar. But recent events have proven to me that whether life is long or short, life should be lived, and lived happily.
So here are my ten 10s on achieving happiness.
1. Don’t let Hollywood dictate the standard.
Actually, don’t let ANYONE dictate what should make YOU happy. You as an individual know what will make you happy. Some people need money to be happy, others fame, others the television, and some, being with others.
So why are you getting your parameters from everyone but yourself?
2. If something makes you happy, do it!
I was ill once and didn’t have appetite. But I wanted paw paws like mad. I told my doctor and she said, ‘by all means, eat. If that’s what you feel like eating, eat them all day.’
I recently also did something I have always wanted to, and you know what, I was upset with myself for waiting so long to try it!
If it makes you happy, get to it!
3. Would you rather be right or happy?
Most times, you can’t be both. Especially with relationships. This is the hardest for me to incorporate now, but I keep working on it.
4. Let go
Why are you with people that make you sad and mad All The Time?
Cut them off!
5. Let it Go
Why are you holding on to grievances and regret and pain?
Cut them out!
6. Let it out
Why don’t you express yourself more often? Get a diary, an anonymous blog, write a novel, do anything that helps you express yourself, but don’t hold on to it.
7. Don’t! Read! The! News!
Lol
But isn’t it true? Every time I turn on the TV, there’s some report. Now I don’t have to turn it on, it’s on my twitter feed and the headlines.
While staying updated and realistic is great, surrounding yourself with so many bad reports consistently will damage you!
8. But read Tosyns Ten 10s
Of course! I’m just here for the smiles people.. Let’s laugh together
9. And Be Selfish
Okay not really. You have to love others and I find that doing something for others also makes you happy but…
Make ‘self’ decisions from time to time at work and you’ll see.
(But don’t really be selfish though!)
10. Bring Back Our Girls
A reminder that it’s been two months now.
