By Tosyn Bucknor
I started the #TosynsPositiveVibrations series a few months ago because it was a good idea at the time. Since then, it has helped a lot of people, myself included.
Here’s what I know…
10. Stay grateful: Sometimes we pray for a miracle, then get it, then keep complaining about the miracle after a while. You wanted a job; you got it, now you grumble every morning. You wanted a girlfriend; you got one, now she irritates you. Yo! Stay grateful. Stop complaining.
9. Live: Life goes on, with or without you. So why not ensure you live your life?
8. Forgive: It is easy to let go of hurts by others, many of us just can’t let go of the silly mistakes we have made. Question is, can you truly forgive someone else without forgiving yourself?
7. A rising tide floats all boats: There’s a fear that if someone else succeeds, you won’t. It’s the crab mentality, crabs are forever bringing another crab down to get up. In the end, they all die. Instead of being crabs, let’s be tides. Do you know that a rising tide floats all boats?
6. Find Y: We might have to find ‘x’ in school but in life, find ‘Y’, YOU. Who are you? What do you believe in? What do you stand for?
5. Water your grass: If there’s any lesson that sums up what I believe, it is that if you focus on other people’s grass, you’re neglecting yours. The grass is greener because it is watered, so water your own hustle.
4. Never stay down: It is not the falling down that kills you, it is the not getting up. Unless you have some exit strategy, life is a game we play till ‘game over.’ This means sometimes we’ll be ahead and sometimes we’ll fall. Don’t stay stuck.
3. Celebrate achievements: Be like the agama lizard that jumps from a tree and nods its head to congratulate itself. Why are you ignoring all these great milestones in your life? Abeg pat yourself on the back!
2. Celebrate you: I realized there would always be someone shorter, cuter, crazier, funnier and more creative than me, but they still wouldn’t be me. They would not have my history, my experiences and my blend. Same for you; you are not unique because you try to be, you are unique because you are.
1. Back to the basics: When you start to get bored, listless or feel like you’re stuck, here’s what to do: go back. Go back, to come forward. Remember the thoughts and things you’ve always had and go with those.
