Sex is exciting and fun but also quite risky. There are many things to worry about from unwanted pregnancy to STDs. That’s why contraception was born.
I got into a conversation with a male friend about contraception and how he feels about using condoms during sex. He told me he hated condoms, that he felt like his whole body was trapped when he used one, and that feeling distracts him so much that he loses interest in the sex. So he stopped using them completely.
I was thinking, “aren’t you worried about getting an STD or getting someone pregnant?” But he said he’s mastered the pull-out method, plus he doesn’t sleep with anyone he doesn’t trust. So I got curious. Do all men feel this way about condoms? Here are what some other men had to say about condoms vs pull-out methods.
Folarin
Pulling out is stressful. No sensible person thinks 30 mins of intense sex is worth an STD and/or a child. I don’t prefer condoms but it’s definitely the safer option.
Kenny
We don’t like condoms as it sort of masks the whole process and you know how inconvenient and unnatural masks are. And pullout is never stressful because you know you’re not ready to be a father. But a guy like me asks questions before the sex to make sure she’s not ovulating so I’m comfy.
Your mind is 100% on the sex as you’re trying to please her and one of the ways you do that is trying to hold back your ejaculation so you’re constantly thinking “oh I can’t afford to cum now”.
So when you’re about to cum, you’re well aware and you can do the needful.
Daniel
I hate wearing condoms so pulling out is the best option, don’t really find it stressful except someone is bursting my head… But then thinking of making babies is all you need to pull out successfully 😅. Pulling out doesn’t affect the sex at all… Game will still be 🔥.
Ore
The only benefit of not using a condom is the pleasure. It feels better. Personally, I use condoms. It’s safer.
I spoke to Anita Aiyudu-Adesiyan, a Reproductive and Behaviour change advocate and she gave some insight on the conversation on pleasure vs precaution; weighing heavily on the side of safety.
“Some men believe that using condoms are not as pleasurable as doing a skin dive during intercourse. Using the pull out method is also sometimes perceived to be relatively safe when avoiding pregnancy. The truth is, not only do they put themselves at risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases, especially with more than one partner, but the risk of pregnancy is also higher because it is almost impossible to determine if no semen has been expelled during intercourse. Pre-ejaculation might contain sperm, which means that even if you do successfully pull out every single time, there’s still a chance of pregnancy.
The pleasure of sex comes with the emotions shared between a couple and using a condom should not deter the man from reaching climax. You can build your physical intimacy before penetration.
If you are in a committed relationship and are open to using the pull out method, you and your partner must get tested before engaging in unprotected sex, regardless of your sexual history. It is also important to discuss with your partner and decide on the best contraceptive method that works for you both. If you’re not in a committed relationship, it’s important to practice safe sex and get tested before and after each sexual partner.”
There you have it, folks! Sometimes, pleasure is all in the mind. Sadly I couldn’t get what women prefer. But that’s another article in the making. The most important thing is that in all your fun-seeking, stay safe.
