By Morenike Nie Smith
Sex is probably the most discussed topic. Different people have different notions. It’s clearly apparent though that the social stratum defines the way they approach or have sex. Whilst it is clearly a means of procreation for some, it is a means of leisure for others. It is evident that even with socio–economic constraints, it is likely that a well-less-off man, or family would outnumber a well-to-do family. No movies on a Friday night, wham, bam, thank you ma’am.
Take Cletus for instance, rented a twelve by twelve one bedroom apartment (boys quarters) behind my neighbour’s house. He has 10 children and his wife has recently taken in. He comes round the other day while I’m at my neighbour’s to give us the apparent good news of a new entrant into his family. To say I was miffed is an understatement. When he left, we discussed and drew this conclusion… Poor man – The sex–a–holic.
Then again there is the urban myth amongst men that prowess from within not wielded with wealth and prosperity is a sure come back sign. If I hump for several miles, it’s guaranteed she’ll ask me over again. Who said you had to get a trophy for the race? My race is long distance, my trophy Longevity…. Who told you so? The truth is the next guy who comes round with a better socio economic standing will take over while you become the f**k buddy. You might ask why this is so, what do you think? A man with so much on his mind and business prospects won’t spend all the days he has in bed with a woman… he’ll be looking for the daily bread not the daily spread.
Hanging out with the boys can be fun and on one of those nights, a certain fellow boasted about his sexual prowess in bed with his new ‘catch’ and how many rounds he was able to cover. I was in total awe at his excitement. Before I could say anything, one of his friends asked him ‘Are you a poor man?’ His argument being that for lack of a better reason, a poor man decides to relieve his wallet through a woman’s body. I don’t know how true this is but the men folk are the better judge. What else can make a man stay so long if not lack? The resounding question would be what kind of lack?
Is it a case of greed?
When I brought this topic up for a discourse, some male friends of mine accepted that they had been in this situation before but some said it was not their forte. I really did not believe this but I let it lie. The one argument that sticks out like a sore thumb is the fact that ‘the man just wants to take all he has for the time he has it because like we all know, nobody knows tomorrow’. Whatever happened to saving for the rainy day? I think that part went out of the window.
On the other hand, can the women folk be said to suffer or enjoy the same way when the tables are turned? I have not spoken to a lot of women about this, but the few I chatted with did say they would be too distraught to think about sex. My second question to one of them was ‘what if he was a money bag?’ She laughed so hard I did not need and answer. Whatever the case be, unless you are in need of a trophy, perhaps the choice should be a man who has money in his pants, that way, wear and tear is controlled.
